HELP! A word I’ve been afraid of for a long time. Even as I sit here, super tired from taking care of my newborn, I could use some help. But, I won’t ask for it.
It’s hard for me to ask for help. I’ve always prided myself on being able to figure things out. I was raised to work hard and always have your own. I have no problem with taking help when it’s offered, but if I ask for help, it’s literally because I’ve exhausted every option myself. Normally, I don’t ask until I’m on the verge of a breakdown.
I know I shouldn’t let it get to that point, but why am I so afraid of asking for help? GUILT & PRIDE.
I don’t like to be a burden on people. I don’t like to inconvenience people. I don’t like to show that I can’t do it by myself.
It’s not like I didn’t grow up with parents that helped me. My family has always been supportive and worked hard to help me with anything I needed or wanted. They equipped me with the knowledge and tools to be able to problem-solve and think critically. As I became a college student, an adult, a wife, a mother, I prided myself on being able to figure it out on my own.
When I found out my ex-husband possibly had another baby that wasn’t mine, I contemplated dealing with it on my own. I thought, “How could I figure it out by myself?” I soon realized I wouldn’t be able to get through it alone. I was going to need HELP!
It was at that moment I had to let my guilt and my pride stand to the wayside. I had to acknowledge that I couldn’t make it through my situation alone. I had to realize that asking for help didn’t mean I was weak or a burden. It means that I was strong enough to know I couldn’t do it on my own. I had to make it known to my support system what was happening, and that I needed them.
Asking for help was the first step to help me on my journey to finding my crown.
I was confused, I was angry, I was hurt, I didn’t know what to do. I needed help. I didn’t know exactly what type of help I needed, but I knew I needed it. I knew I couldn’t make it through alone.
What I want you to take from this is:
- No one will know you need help unless you let them know.
- Asking for help is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength.
- You can make it through any situation if you ask for help.
- You are NOT alone.
Take a small step today, and as someone to help you.